Revenge

I was listening to the news this evening…. Henre van Breda is guilty of the murder of his parents and brother. 

His sister, Marelie, survived against all odds. Her whereabouts is unknown. I listened to a journalist on a journalist program who wrote a book on this case and it seems Henre has [had] various problems, i.e. a brain tumor, drug addiction and extreme anger.  He also came back to SA after he left the university in NZ.  He and his parents had endless fights [according to staff in their employment] due to him sitting at home with no plans to study or work as well as his use of contraband.  In fact, the night before the murder that occurred early the next morning, a big fight between erupted. 

My concern is this:  it takes only one family member [be it parent or child] to act in such anger that their action will disrupt their lives forever.  Forever.  Nothing will change anything back to the way it was or bring back the dead. Nothing what happened can be undone.  Nothing.  It’s so futile…. You die by your own hand.  You’re delusional to think anyone will want to believe your fables.    

One second you had a family, albeit you don’t seem eye to eye…. Next moment you don’t.  It’s like watching a tennis match – your head turns left and right and ….. your family are dead.  Your life has turned into turmoil, worse than any disagreements you might have had with your family or the way of life you experienced. Nothing can be worse than being on your own.  Alone on Christmas, New Year, your birthday, Easter, birthdays of your family.  Alone forever. And your life spirals deeper into the abyss. Deeper than the previous day.   Nothing you want to do will have any merit. Was it worth it?

Murder, physical  and emotional abuse fall into the same category.   Turn around and walk out of a dangerous situation.  Go somewhere safe even if only for a few days.   ASK FOR HELP.  Move if you have to [be safe].  As long as you get away to ensure you don’t murder anyone who has killed your soul and spirit. Don’t tell people where you go [to hide or cool off].   Switch off your phone.  Stay away from email and FB – don’t vent and write things you might regret! Focus on your own life and make it work – make your life count for the better. Pick up the pieces. All this is possible.  Start slow. Step by step.  Day by day.  Walk away in order to find your future.  Ignore the crocodiles along the way  - just get through the river.